Does anyone else get motion sickness? Well, I do. My intrusive thoughts have taken me on far too many crazy rides so I'm getting off the Negative Self Talk roller coaster. You're a living, breathing human being which means that you've also already paid the season pass for the park and since there are no refunds, we just gotta learn how to get off the ride when we start to feel sick. So here are a few positive thoughts to think as many times during the day as you can... even if you have to set yourself alarms on your phone, do that!
1. Everyone Around Me Loves Me But Lisy, I don't feel loved. My family sucks. My friends are talking shit about me. I'm in a fight with my sister. PAUSE. First of all, I get it and I hear you. Secondly, I named this blog Found Family for a reason -- you can create your own family if you don't feel supported by the one who shares your blood. I didn't feel accepted by my mom and so I always went out into the world searching for my own Found Family. And now you have me, and everyone in this Found Family community. So, breathe. Because we love you, OK? Thirdly, even if your current reality isn't what you hoped it would be/want it to be, the point I'm trying to make here is that we can practice shifting our mindsets. It's definitely a daily practice, but I promise you that it works like magic. 2. I Am Good At Everything I Do I've made mistakes. I've fallen down and struggled to get back up. And it's OK. I still repeat this mantra to myself as a way of shifting my mindset from negative to positive. Not gonna lie, sometimes I even say these words OUT LOUD to myself. I'm not one of those people who talks to themselves... I swear, I'm not... but sometimes it helps to hear my own voice say something out loud and declare it as if it were true. 3. Today Is Fucking Awesome Yeah, yeah... I have a potty mouth. Swearing is like a coping mechanism. It helps me feel better to say FUCK. If you're not into the "f word", replace the word with "freaking" or "such an", or "totally". You're allowed to customize these mantras! Make it your own...whatever feels natural and 'on brand' with your style. 4. I Have The Power To Choose For Myself 'Cause you know what? YOU DO. I grew up in a SUPER controlled environment by my helicopter, conservative, Catholic mother and lemme tell ya, I did NOT think that I had the power to choose ANYTHING for myself. For starters, I was SO controlled that I couldn't ever distinguish between "her voice" and "my voice" - meaning, if I was at a crossroads needing to make a decision I'd hear in my mind "turn left" but I never stopped to think, "well, do I want to turn left? Or is that something my mom would "want" me to do?" It took MANY years, lots of therapy sessions, and countless chats with my mom to break free from those "chains", but I did it. And so can you. Remember your power! 5. I Choose To See The Good In Everything Is this always easy? No. 'Cause some people suck and some situations suck. I get it! But (hold on, lemme go grab the cheese) there is good in every day. If you can just try to shift your mindset today and look for something good, you can find it. Maybe a stranger said thank you for holding the door open. That's a good thing! Maybe you get into a great conversation with the lady doing your nails. That's a good thing! Or maybe your local super market has your fave snack or drink on sale. Even THAT'S a good thing. See what I mean? These seemingly little things may not seem all that great in the moment, but if you realize that they are in fact good things, it can help lift your mood. 6. I Am Safe This is a big one for me. I get easily overwhelmed and when I get overwhelmed my intrusive thoughts start to kick in. And they tell me all sorts of bullshit. They make me feel like I'm not good enough, smart enough, qualified enough, etc. to do anything. When I remind myself that I am safe, it helps me to take a step back and relax. I hope this mantra does the same for you. 7. I Am Accepted In a similar way, "I am accepted" is also a big one for me. I refuse to continue giving someone else the power to control the way that I feel about myself. They don't have that kind of power! If anyone has ever made you feel like you don't belong or that you're not welcomed or that you're not accepted, move on. That's not a true friend. And if it's a family member, then don't allow it to bother you anymore. I hate to tell you this, but if you feel like you're not accepted by a family member it's because you've allowed them to have that kind of power over you. That stings a bit, doesn't it? Yeah... it stung when I heard it too. I didn't want to believe that I was allowing my perception of how my mom viewed me to rule the way I viewed myself. I was letting it happen. It wasn't until I consciously made the decision to stop caring what she thought about me or whether or not she "approved of me" that I finally set myself free. Which of these thoughts resonated with you most? LEAVE A COMMENT BELOW to let me know!
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AuthorLisy Pitruzzella is a 28 year old extroverted Italian living in New York. Host of "Found Family" podcast and mental health blogger. Categories
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